Things NOT to say to a pregnant woman …

Oh! Congratulations! You’re going to be a mommy. Maybe this is baby #1, maybe you’ve already got yourself a full soccer team. Either way, there are some things you just don’t need to hear while you’re pregnant (or at all). Pregnancy is so different for everyone and while some unsolicited advice may reign true in your current situation, most of them are completely and utterly unwarranted comments.

Disclaimer: I’m pregnant and this is how I’m feeling right now. If I’m not eating my feelings, I am certainly not apologizing for them. 😉

 

  1. “WOW! Big belly! Gonna be a BIG baby!!” or “Getting BIG!!” – First of all, no … Why is it that older women are always the ones who say these things?! Do they not realize how pregnancy even works? I’ve seen so many teeny, tiny bellies produce large babies and women who have gained a lot of weight give birth to small babies. Just stop saying these things! Would you walk up to anyone not pregnant and tell them that they’re fat?! Come on!

2. “Are you sure it’s not twins?” – Yep, pretty sure the ultrasounds didn’t lie to me and there’s only one in there, but thanks for making me feel like more of a beached whale than I already do. Honestly, who would even dream of asking someone that?!

3. “You’re definitely having a boy/girl” – Old wives tales are just that; tales. I had one person tell me that I was ABSOLUTELY having a boy because I was all belly and I looked fantastic and was glowing. One, that’s sweat; it’s summer. Two, I am 100% having a girl and it has been confirmed for months now. I had another convinced that I was having a girl because I carried high and all belly. Well, so did many of my friends who now have boys!

4. “Did you want a girl? Or did you want a boy first? Are you happy?” – What?! Of course I’m happy! I’m having a baby and as long as he or she is healthy; I’m happy!

5. “Oh, you’re on extended maternity leave? Must be nice” – “Must be nice” is one of my absolute least favorite phrases. It is so rude and demeaning and full of jealous innuendos. You don’t know a woman’s reasons for being or not being on leave. Don’t ask and don’t say negative things.

6. “Are you going to have more kids?” – I have no idea. I haven’t even had this one yet. For all you know, I could have had such a severely traumatic experience in just trying to conceive this little blessing. Please don’t assume that you know my journey here.

7. “You look like you’re ready to POP!” – I feel fine. Great actually … Have you people never seen a pregnant woman before? Chances are in her 36th week she’s going to look rather large. Maybe you should ask how she’s feeling instead of insulting her.

8. “Better rest now” – There’s actually nothing really wrong with this statement except that it just really annoys me. I personally still sleep great, even at 36 weeks pregnant. I know that I am the exception to the rule and I am by all means NOT complaining about that. But please … for those who have trouble sleeping at night already and are very uncomfortable with their pregnancies, this is the worst thing to say. All women know that babies are a lot of work and are extremely exhausting. You don’t need to push the knife in further …

9. “You’re not getting an epidural?! Don’t try to be a hero” – This is another extremely disrespectful comment. There are so many personal reasons and beliefs to not have drugs injected into your spine during childbirth. This is right up there with all of the breastfeeding comments. While we’re at it, FED is best ladies!!

10. Anything related to your own labor and delivery is off limits … – If I had a dollar for every time someone tried to scare me out of childbirth, I would have enough money to pay someone to give birth for me. Honestly, I don’t care about how painful or bloody or shitty (no pun intended) your delivery was. You are not me. All births are different and I am well aware of what I am in for. I planned this pregnancy, remember? You already asked me that question!

 

WHOLE30 Week 1 Recap …

 

 

Yep, I’m really doing this. I know what you’re thinking … How the hell can I go 30 days without my delicious, sugary, poisonous creamer filled coffee and my bottle glass of wine every night … I surprised myself too! But I set out to do this and I will finish these 30 days! You can order the Whole30 or Whole30 Cookbook from Amazon.

So, the basis of this is total elimination of sugar, grains, legumes, dairy, and alcohol. CRAZY TALK!! Yes, this means no yummy desserts, no bagel with cream cheese, no creamy pasta dishes, NOTHING!!!

I decided to cut out coffee for the month because I was getting heartburn and let’s be honest, I’d rather not drink it at all than to drink it black. Besides, it’s only 30 days … if I can’t make it 30 days, what am I good for?!

Anyway, I’m in this group on Facebook headed by none other than the amazing Lauren McBride. Seriously though, she’s great! From fashion to DIY and everything in between, this blog has it all. She takes you into her home and into her life and you don’t want to miss a single post. And she is the sweetest most genuine person you’ll meet. You can check out her blog here. She decided she wanted to start a large group Whole30 so I figured I have nothing to lose, so why not!

Now, let me just say, I personally would love to lose weight while doing Whole30 but it is not a lose 25 lbs in a month scheme. It is designed to reset the way you eat by eliminating foods that are not very good for you.

Let me tell you … this was a piece of cake the first few days minus the horrific withdrawal headaches. Breakfasts all week consisted of eggs, spinach, bacon/sausage, potatoes, and/or avocado as well as some fruits. Lunches were either really big salads or leftovers from dinner the night before. And most dinners were prepared in advance to make it easier to stick to the plan.

By day 4, I thought I might kill my husband and by day 6, I couldn’t keep my eyes open. I’m tired. I am SO TIRED!! Day 6 was Saturday and we were removing all traces of Christmas from our house. I said that I was just going to lie down for 5 minutes to rest my back. TWO HOURS LATER!!! I emerged from my bed looking like the morning after and felt even more exhausted than when I fell asleep.

Day 7 …. Give me ALL the chocolate in all the land and give it to me now!!! Brownies, cookies, cake, ice cream, candy bars, I don’t care, I want them, I NEED them! BUT I didn’t stray from the plan once. And guess what? I didn’t die!! I have lost 5 lbs and 3 inches and my heartburn is completely gone!!! Weighing yourself goes against the Whole30 rules but let’s be honest, if it’s between a loaf of bread, a tray of brownies, or weighing myself … I choose the scale!!!

 

Here are a few of the meals we had this week.

 

 

 

2 eggs (any style), spinach, mushrooms, compliant bacon and Frank’s Red Hot

 

 

 

 

2 Hard boiled eggs, ½ of an avocado, 1 cup of strawberries, 1 cup of pineapple and Frank’s Red Hot

 

 

 

 

 

Apples w/ Barneys Almond Butter and two hard-boiled eggs make a nice quick breakfast.

 

 

 

 

Potato Frittata

 

 

 

 

 

Chicken “No Noodle” Soup

 

 

 

 

 

 

Chicken Bake w/ Roasted Veggies and Potatoes

 

 

 

 

And I can’t live without La Croix Sparking Water. When you’re limited on beverages, this just makes your life ten times easier! With so many flavors to choose from, you’re always far from bored with this drink.

 

Notice how there are no desserts on here? That’s because we’re not allowed to snack. The whole premise is to fuel your body enough with three meals each day. Not snacking is SO hard for this self-proclaimed grazer. Now, onto Day 8. See you next week for the recap of Week 2!

 

 

 

 

Whole30 Approved Potato Frittata

I luckily haven’t reached the “I just CAN’T eat another egg” stage in the Whole30 yet. And I’m not sure I will. I could probably eat eggs for the rest of my life and not get bored with them. There are so many things you can do with eggs and I try to make them a different way each day changing the sides and fillings so there’s a variety every morning.

But I woke up on Saturday and wanted something a little different so I came up with this. The most perfect Frittata and I could literally eat it EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. The best thing about Frittata’s is that you can make them with ANY filler you want and as long as it’s Whole30 compliant, the possibilities are endless. The best part … there is enough left over for three days worth of breakfast for my husband and myself!

INGREDIENTS

2-3 large potatoes (enough to cover the bottom of your baking dish)

10-12 large eggs

¼ cup unsweetened almond milk

1 cupped diced ham

1-2 cups spinach packed

1 medium diced tomato

1 green pepper

1 large yellow onion

salt and pepper to taste

coconut oil

DIRECTIONS

Lightly grease baking dish with coconut oil. Thinly slice the potatoes and layer them on the bottom of the greased 9×13-baking dish, slightly overlapping. Bake at 425° for 10 minutes and remove from oven.

Scramble eggs with a little salt and pepper and the almond milk. Add diced ham, spinach, peppers, onions and tomatoes and poured it over the potatoes. Cook for 20 minutes at 425° until eggs are fluffy and not runny. Exact time will vary for each oven.

 

DELICIOUS!

 

This recipe couldn’t be any easier to make (especially since I can’t fry an egg to save my life)!! I love to add Frank’s Red Hot to this dish and it gives it the perfect kick of flavor! Leave me a comment and let me know some of your favorite frittata or omelet fillers!

 

A Rescue Pups Very First Winter Wonderland

Winter is FINALLY here!! I know, most of you are over the cold already, but I cannot contain my excitement! I just LOVE a good snowstorm! Comfy clothes, a roaring fire, hot chocolate and something yummy is always simmering on the stovetop. Although, I would much rather it occur during the workweek!

Now, if you’re anything like me, you worry about your tiny fur-babies staying warm in the snow. Any one who knows me, or follows me on Instagram, knows that my fur-babies are my whole world! Kingston has been with me since 2008 and my husband and I rescued Matilda in April of 2016.

To say that she completes our fur-baby family is an understatement! While it was extremely tough to get her acclimated to our home and to trust us, I wouldn’t trade her in for anything! This chick is so funny!! She goes from 0 to 60 in a second! From sleeping soundly one minute to biting her brothers legs and bouncing around the house the next. There is no one quite like her!

Naturally, I was a little bit nervous to see what she was going to do out in the snow over the weekend. So, of course I had to make sure that she was dressed properly for the weather!! I bought both pups these adorable vests from Amazon.

They’re so great and I can’t believe I hadn’t found them sooner. They zip up the back and have hooks for the leash so you don’t have to leash them by the collar. I love that because I can’t stand to see them pulling themselves by their necks. They come in 5 different colors/designs and multiple sizes.

 

I’m sure the pups would have had just as much fun outside without their warm, new vests but it made me feel better! And as per usual, Matilda plopped her butt down in front of the pellet stove warming her little paws for the rest of the day, and Kingston, right where he always is, in my lap! I hope you all enjoyed your snowy weekend!

 

 

 

*If you’re interested in rescuing, fostering, donating or volunteering, please visit Thank Dog Rescue where we found our girl! They are an amazing organization with the best people and pups you could imagine!

Meet Bethany

My little family! Dave, me, Matilda and Kingston.

Ok, so here goes nothing! If I had a dollar for every time someone told me to start a food blog, I’d never have to work another day again. And that life sounds AMAZING! But I wanted this blog to be a little more than just food and I wanted to be able to incorporate all that I love to do. Cook, write, renovate our home, read and spend time with my little family.

I remember the first meal that I actually cooked on my own. I was probably 12 and I decided that I wanted to make a special dinner for my parents. So, I enlisted my little sister’s help and we made sautéed chicken, rice pilaf and broccoli. I can’t help but laugh at the simplicity of it but we did it!

Fast forward to quite a few years later when I was living in NC. It was the first time I was on my own aside from college and I had no idea what to do. Eating out was not an option as life as an adult is far from cheap, so I had to figure it out on my own. Let’s be honest, my mother is full-blooded Portuguese, I never really needed to cook for myself, just help out when she asked for it, so I had no idea what to really do.

Grocery shopping was HORRIBLE the first time. I didn’t make a list and I just threw everything I liked into the cart. BIG mistake. It was SO expensive and almost all of it went to waste since I had no idea how to meal plan or prep … FAIL!

Over the course of the past decade (yep … this happened over 10 years ago), I’ve learned how to shop, plan, prep and cook almost everything we eat from scratch. Except fried eggs … I cannot get the hang of flipping without breaking the yolk and it’s quote annoying!

Our beautifully renovated kitchen!

So, I invite you to take a step into my home and enjoy all of the recipes, DIY’s, renovations and daily shenanigans I’ve got to offer you!